4 Life Lessons I Wish I Had Learned Earlier
“By seeking and blundering we learn.” ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Have you ever found yourself thinking that you wish you could have a life do-over? If only you had known then what you know now… I have on occasion followed my wandering thoughts down that path, thinking.. “Well, duh!” I’m not saying that with any self-flagellation or guilt, it’s more along the lines of a smirky laugh because now, years later, I know everything happens at the right time. Of course, if I could have a chat with my younger self I would share some of the wisdom I’ve gained to help shorten up the learning curve, at least a little bit.
- Go with Your Gut.
Your intuitive sense kicks in for a reason. Sometimes it’s over small things and sometimes it can save you from making mistakes that have more of an impact. I remember laying in my bed a few weeks before I was supposed to get married. I was 25 and in a complete panic because I realized that I wasn’t ready to get married. How could I tell my parents and the rest of my family that this was the wrong choice? People were flying in, gifts were sent and everything was paid for. What the hell would they think? I chalked it up to cold feet and did it anyway.
Ironically, my dad had been offering $10,000.00 and a ladder if we didn’t get married, as a joke of course, however, I have often wondered if Dad’s intuition was speaking to him as well…Ten years later I found myself divorced having spent far more money to get unmarried than we had spent to get married.
My life would have been totally different if I had listened to my gut and called the wedding off. Who knows what it would have been like… I certainly have no regrets about the awesome kids I have as a result of the marriage and definitely no regrets about the path I have chosen since being divorced. I’ve learned, finally, that every time I do follow my instincts, and listen to the quiet internal voice that whispers so softly that I almost miss it, I am rewarded with amazingness.
Listen to your instincts, your gut feeling, and check in anytime you make a big decision. Give your intuition the space and time to develop if you haven’t paid much attention to it before. We all have it, allow it to speak.
- Honor and Love Yourself.
I was listening to a webinar recently and a very wise woman said, “All love flows from self-love.” Some days it probably seems like everyone is demanding something from you.
If you aren’t filling your own bucket up first, you have nothing to give to others. Complete depletion will leave you exhausted, sick and broke (trust me on this one).
Make time to eat well. Everything you put in your body either creates energy and abundance or depletes it. More importantly, how you choose to nourish yourself reflects how you feel about yourself.
You are enough, just because of the simple fact that you are you! You deserve to eat healthy food that makes you feel amazing.
- Create the Vision of What You Want.
Until my mid-thirties I lived an unconscious life. The college I chose, moving off campus, the initial thought of thinking marriage was a good idea, having kids.. all the bigger decisions in life I made because, well ya know, it seemed like a good idea at time. What the heck. It never occurred to me to think about what it was that I wanted, or to think about how did I want to feel? What did I want to experience? What were my goals?
Since I “woke up,” I’ve become super clear about what I want… and the best part, with enough time and attention, those things show up.
Maybe you haven’t thought about what it is you want to experience in life, or you have let go of the dreams of your younger self.
It’s not too late to regain them or create a new version. Start now. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What do you want to be doing? Where do you live and who are you with? Dream big and revisit the life you want every day. What’s on your bucket list?
- Embrace Your “Special-ness”
My kids tell me I’m “special” all the time and not the “Oh aren’t you amazing or original” special…the underlying tone with an eye roll is more like they are saying “yes Emi, we know you’re weird and we are going to interact with you because, well, we are stuck with you”.
I love my weird. It’s taken me years to embrace my exuberant joy over small things like spring flowers and yet the more I embrace my true self and my voice, the more I attract similar people who think my weird is pretty cool. As for the people who disagree? Great, because I just don’t care anymore. I’m having too much fun smelling the roses.
Attract more of what you want in your life by being your authentic self.
It’s our experiences that gives us character. Regardless of what you wish you could have learned sooner, those moments in your life whether they’ve had a positive or negative impact, have helped pave your path. They ave helped you to grow and shape the person you are today What you choose to do with each moment, past and present, and how you choose to move forward in your life is what matter most.