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transition period

Lately, I’ve found myself thinking a lot about what my period of transition meant to me. And the person I had to become to survive a new country, a new culture and learning how to be married. Here are some of the things I learned, that apply to any transition period in our lives.

– When you feel lost, you get the chance to start searching. You get to choose whether you’re going to feel defeated and wallow in your deep, dark hole of depression (been there, done that) or if you’re going to get the right map to get you to where you want to be. When I felt stuck during those first six months in which I couldn’t work, I started getting knowledge that would serve me in the future. I found the books, watched the TED talks, took the classes and hired the coach. (Mind you, I had to hustle for this knowledge since I was technically a “kept woman,” and this gave me a whole new level of confidence)

-Maps are great, but they don’t work if you don’t move. What would’ve happened with all this knowledge if I would’ve just kept it to myself or shared it with my best friend over a coffee date? I tell you what… Not one shit! If you are in the space of transition right now, whether it is in your career, your relationship, your health or your finances, you must take a step forward into your new life, because no one else is going to do it for you.

-Sometimes you’ll want to give up, and that’s okay. (As long as you DON’T give up) As I was going through my whole “knowledge accumulation” process, I wanted to give up so bad, get on the next plane back home and tell my husband that if he wanted to stay married, he was going to have to be the one to move. But deep inside I knew that if I did that, I would be saying NO to the life I knew I wanted and deserve. So I stuck around, and it has been so worth it!

-Clarity is crucial! If I wouldn’t have had a clear vision of what I wanted and the awareness to know my personal limiting beliefs, I would’ve left everything behind. It takes clarity and faith to get the life we want. So first you have to see it, and then believe it!

And as I sip my tea on this summer morning, and look at my calendar full of excitement (which may or may not include sitting and reading for an entire afternoon) I smile to myself and think of how no time of my life or experience has been wasted. I just had no idea how it was all going to fit in the puzzle in the end.

If you want to know how the pieces of your personal story fit together, and how they will help you build a life that’s worth waking up in the morning for, every day, you need to dedicate some time to discovering your real potential and tearing down your bullshit story.

Let me be of service to you, on this journey and discover how by clicking HERE.

I believe in you; now it’s your turn!

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  • Marge Dorsa / 27 June 2017 11:12

    Keeping perspective is tough sometimes, but you say it beautifully, “Sometimes you’ll want to give up, and that’s OK. (As long as you DON’T give up.”) Thanks, Annie!

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