Creating a Self-Care Routine You Love
Creating a Self-Care Routine You Love…
We all know that self-care is important, but for many of us, it always finds itself at the bottom of our priority list. Somehow everything else is more important. Or, we feel like we haven’t earned the right to even take time to devote to ourselves. We think that we can simply borrow time…we borrow time for sleep, or time for cooking healthy food, or time to spend with friends and we spend it on more tangible, measurable things like work.
We feel good about this, we call it hustling, we join “#teamnosleep”, we make ourselves martyrs all in the name of chasing the dream. “One day” we’ll earn the right to take the day off and drink fruity drinks by the pool, but until then it’s nothing but sacrifice and hard work.
But, what we don’t realize is that’s not the only way to get things done. And, it’s honestly not the most sustainable way. The evidence is making itself more and more visible. I’m pretty sure you have seen the evidence yourself. Maybe you’re always feeling tired. Or perhaps you’re not feeling your best health-wise. And let’s not forget your relationships…are you as present as you’d like to be?
I’ve definitely been here and have shared my story about my personal wake-up call. It’s still something that can be a challenge and I’m sure if I’m experiencing this, others are too. I’ve experimented with ways to implement self-care and I want to share some easy to implement ways that you, too, can begin to incorporate more self supporting activities into your schedule.
1. Morning Routine
One of the biggest reasons for needing self-care routines and rituals for myself is because I deal with anxiety…A LOT! I’m also an introvert and an empath and I need a lot of quiet, down time. My morning routine is hands down the #1 way to stay grounded. If I skip a day, I definitely notice. And if I skip more than that, I will eventually have a panic attack and meltdown. Drama city!
The reason my morning routine works is because it is a daily reconnection to who I am. It is a time to realign with my purpose and my goals, to get quiet and listen to my spirit. It is a time to address what I need that day to feel at peace. It is a time to nurture and take care of myself.
My morning routine consists of:
- Spiritual Practice (includes all of some of the following: lighting a candle, meditation, prayer, reviewing my goals for the month, tapping (EFT), pulling an oracle card, reading a devotional, and journaling)
- Drink water with apple cider vinegar
- Oil pulling
- Prepare breakfast and detox tea
- Make smoothie
- Make lunch
- Pack supplements
- Dry skin brushing
- Breast massage
- Get dressed
It is what keeps me sane and balanced. It’s what makes me feel like I’m well taken care of. It’s what supports me in being my best self, fully present, and productive. If I’m rushed for whatever reason, my bare minimum is simply doing my spiritual practice, a quick breakfast (pb&j), packing my supplements, taking a shower, getting dressed, and heading out the door.
2. Evening routine
My evening routine gives me a chance to unwind and do something just for me. And it prepares me to have a really good night’s sleep. The way I end my day greatly affects how I feel the next day. It also gives me an opportunity to reflect upon my day and take notice of my feelings.
My evening routine consists of:
- Balance checkbook
- Tidy up
- Set out clothes
- Take supplements
- Braid hair
- Make tea
- Bath (favorite part!)
- Put in retainer
If I’m really tired, or if my day has run long, my bare minimum is taking my supplements, drinking my tea, journaling, and putting in my retainer.
3. A day just for me
I don’t officially have an entire day off. But, what I do have is a day I like to call my “get my life together day”. It’s the day that I spend doing things like grocery shopping, running errands, washing my hair, doing laundry, getting a massage, etc. It’s like a day to regroup and prepare for the week.
4. A week just for me
Every 4 weeks I give myself time off from seeing clients. I use that time to work behind the scenes on my business. This can include reviewing my metrics, reassessing my goals, spending extra time on any projects I’m working on, or finishing up any major writing that needs to be done. If I want to take a vacation, or just take a day or two off, this is also a good time to do so.
5. Work out of a co-working space 3 days a week
This may not seem like a self-care ritual. But, for me it is. The reason why is that although I enjoy quiet, alone time, too much of it causes me to feel disconnected and lonely. I need to be around like-minded people, and in a supportive environment.
I currently work at NEZ Atlanta three days a week and it’s perfect for me. It gives me a chance to get out of the house and be around other people that are also working on their businesses. I also have people to bounce ideas off of and, likewise support. And it’s great for networking.
So, how do you create your own self-care routines and rituals?
Everyone is different and has different needs. To get clear on what you need personally, here are some questions to ask yourself to help you get started:
- What do I need in the morning to feel my best?
- What would be the best way to start my day?
- What activities bring me joy?
- What activities make me feel nurtured and cared for?
- What can I do for myself to make my day easier?
- What can I do for myself to make my week easier?
- What do I need in order to feel rested?
- What do I need in order to feel energized?
- What kind of support do I need to help me stay confident and motivated?
Setting up a self-care routine can seem like a daunting task. It’s definitely something that develops and changes over time. The challenge is trying to fit everything into your day and it seeming impossible to do without sacrificing something important, like sleep!
But, there’s always a win-win solution! Sometimes it helps to have someone on the outside help you to see ways you can be creative and design a schedule and self-care routine that works for you.
If you need extra support, I invite you to join me in a Business Made Simple Strategy Session. There we can take a holistic view of your business and personal goals, your self-care needs, and create a next step action plan to bridge the gap between where you are and where you’d like to be.