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How Do You Build Your Confidence

Recently, I was challenged to list three physical attributes about myself that I like.  Have you ever done that? When you stop and ponder what do you come up with? Most women when asked this question will list characteristics that are not physical but rather relational. Why is it so hard to focus on ourselves? It begins with confidence. Building confidence starts with how you see yourself and what you believe others see about you. Changing how you view yourself and what you think about yourself are sure ways to build your up. Here are 3 ways to start increasing your confidence.

Learn to love yourself

Stand in front of the mirror and loudly declare that you love yourself. Doing this without clothes on raises the level of transparency & vulnerability. If you’re not ready for that keep them on. Appreciate all the perfections and imperfections. This might not be an easy task, but it’s a necessary one. Part of this process is learning how to forgive yourself. Forgiveness releases tension, anxiety and negativity. Learning to love the person you are and releasing who you are not are key steps in building confidence. Take a moment to care about who you are and genuinely love yourself. Realize that you are unique and love who you are and who you are becoming.

Mental Rehearsal

Mental rehearsal is an exercise that most major athletes and Olympians practice. They image what it looks like to win. They imagine and visualize crossing the finish line or getting the trophy. They use all their senses during this process and see it before it really it happens. Mentally rehearse what that confident women looks like. What does she see, taste and smell? Who is around her? What is she experiencing? What does she hear? Visualize what confidence looks like and then start to believe it for yourself.

Be in gratitude

Start each day by being grateful. Meditate and then write down 3 to 5 things that you are grateful for daily.  If your mind is constantly filled with negative thoughts it’s hard to build yourself up. Adversity and challenges may be present in your life, but focusing on gratitude allows positive energy to flow through your body. If you find this difficult, start with something small and gradually build it up. Being grateful allows you to see the silver lining even in difficulty. Remember, what you focus on expands. Channel your thoughts on gratitude and watch your confidence increase.

Getting started is often the hardest part. Make a decision to practice these simple tips regularly for a month and then evaluate your change. Confidence is like a muscle. It won’t change or grow if you are inconsistent.  Nurture it, commit to it and watch yourself develop healthy self-confidence. You’ll notice the difference and others will too!

Marsha, an empowerment coach is the owner of Cultivated Wellness. Her 30 years as a registered nurse is why she is so passionate about supporting others on their personal journey of holistic wellness. As a business owner she’s a confident leader and motivator.  When she’s not helping her clients build new conversations, she can be found cooking or hanging out with her husband and 2 boys. Check out her blog at http://cultivated-wellness.blogspot.com or schedule your complimentary discovery session with her at https://cultivatedwellness.simplybook.me/v2/

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