Mother’s Day Can Be a Tough Day
I love Mother’s Day. For the lumpy gluten filled pancakes and the fascinating hand sketched family figures, it’s all so beautiful.
Though, I didn’t always love Mothers’ Day. At one time in my life, Mother’s Day brought me a bit of jealousy and anger. My perception of this dedicated day had me, for a few years, upset with the world and feeling envy towards those that had loving Mothers. Through my rollercoaster of emotions during my early adult years, I found grace, forgiveness and love. Editing definitions, re-telling stories and reviewing my history led me to love the day and let go of the past.
Growing up with a Mother, that was addicted to drugs and tinkering in between the world of ego and mothering, left me grasping for a maternal figure. Friends that struggle with this day, I hear ya. Whether your Mom left Earth too soon or never really “arrived” or your dreams of being one never physically occurred, the day can be filled with mixed ups and downs. My lessons learned through my path to peace is noted below. If this time is a tough one for you as well, I hope this serves as a means to heal and locate a deep level of serenity.
MATERNAL VIBES ARE EVERYWHERE // The titles of the perfect mother seem to confine love and set strict parameters. When we release titles and definitions, our hearts open to the world and help us get grounded in blessings. I found maternal love in humans that weren’t a part of my family. I found I could mother others in a nurturing light regardless of biology. I found that even non-humans need mothering and once I released the capsules, I was able to share so much more. The roles of mothering are self-perspective and the soaring sensation that arrives once we realize this, gives us comfort, peace and grace to love ourselves deeply. Let go and feel the love that is in all things we touch and embrace. Internally, we have the power to love beyond any pain we have been focusing on. Start to mother all of those around you with a diversity of peace. Your soul will start to smile.
OUR PAST DOESN’T DEFINE US // Stories of women that have struggled to arrive to their place in this world are more prevalent. Each story confirms that the past doesn’t dictate our future. Humans tend to look at yesterday as to why tomorrow won’t be as it should. Looking back though tears, re-living painful years from long ago in the today, prevent us from moving forward with love. If we constantly re-live, re-vive and re-focus on the pains of our past years, how can the tomorrow be filled of light and love? I have healed and I now find sporadic moments I received as love during childhood and those few memories lift me up. I am choosing to see only the beautiful moments, to remember those times of love and allow those to elevate my spirit.
SHARE YOUR SHIFT WITH OTHERS // When I share my past with others, it gives them comfort. As we connect with one another in the stories that shifted us and led us to find peace, it helps others do the same. Misery likes company as they say. However, to break free from pain to embrace love, there is company craving for this therapeutic scenario as well. While we are connecting with points of painful memories, the isolation can feel incredibly personal and victimizing. We are not alone and to recognize this truth allows us to release a bit of pain and replace it with more love.
I am wishing you so much love for this Mother’s day. I hope this helps those searching for clarity and a way to shift into embracing this coming Sunday.
Violette is the Founder of FemCity // an online global network featuring business and lifestyle trends with over 70 local communities designed exclusively for women. Violette is also a business coach, motivational speaker, small business consultant, writer and mother of three. As a serial entrepreneur with over 20 years of experience, Violette is passionate about supporting women entrepreneurs through business growth, big vision strategies and positivity along the way. For more inspiration and business tips, visit www.femcity.com and www.violettedeayala.com. Follow Violette de Ayala // @violettedeayala