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As Shared by Violette de Ayala, Founder of FemCity & Femfessionals

How Joan Barnes founded Gymboree 40 years ago and her story through it all continues to inspire women globally. I recently had the honor of serving on a panel with her to celebrate 40 years of Gymboree and the launch of her new book “Play it Forward”.

Her story is filled with authenticity and introspection into the various themes women entrepreneurs encounter daily while balancing life and business. I am grateful to have met her and honored to call her a friend.  I wanted to share with you what moved me most about our most recent lunching connection. It was a moment in my life that shifted me in a grand way pulling me deeper into my own purpose.

SOUL CONNECTIVITY // Your soul must be connected to your daily work. When we take on activities and roles that don’t fit our greater purpose, anxiety arises and an imbalance erupts in our hearts. When we align ourselves with the vibe of busyness we can get burned out, uncontrollably stressed and off the path of our vision. We all go through a rollercoaster of being overwhelmed and not knowing which way is up. The vision to improve the lives of others serves as the forefront to our motivation. It recharges us during moments of challenges and reconnects us.

SHARE YOUR TRUTH // Don’t hide behind the eyes of perfectionism. Share your challenges, your struggles and how you overcame adversity. With each bit of sharing, your heart releases the permission to others so they may also accept their truth. In turn, their hearts will open and their sharing with others will naturally occur. Imagine how powerful the world could be if we all stopped pretending and started authentically being.

FOCUS // Women entrepreneurs tend to want to do it all, RIGHT NOW! And while we can do everything, it may not be best to do it all, RIGHT NOW! Choose 1-2 items to tackle in business and to drive in the sustaining force. Wear invisible borders to provide and facilitate focus on 1-2 items. Key your eye on the main focus and as your business grows and takes off, introduce another item. Priority & focus, focus & priority. That’s a great mantra!

BALANCE // Grip self-love and dedicate energy to remaining balanced in your life and business. What does this mean? It means commit to taking care of you first and then others. Meditate daily, exercise often, and spend time in quietness to find your own clarity. Women tend to feel awful and guilty dedicating “me time”. If you aren’t clear with your internal voice, your guided path to your goals and connectivity to unconditional self-love, your business will suffer. Take a few moments each day and find the balance. Allow the love within you to be nurtured internally.

SUPPORT // Your soul sisters in friendship will often be your constant through decades of development and evolution. Commit to nurturing your closest friendships and relationships as they will come full circle. You need your friends on this journey of life. Girl time is healing, therapeutic and mandatory to your connectivity.

Joan is as real as they come with her passion to help women form community and support one another. I highly recommend her book. I believe it will serve as an inspirational voice to you and your journey through entrepreneurship. After you read it, lets chat about it! Post a comment below and we can continue to Play if Forward together.

Violette is the Founder of FemCity [a global online and local community for women entrepreneurs and division of Femfessionals], a small business expert, writer and mother of three. A serial entrepreneur with 20-plus years of experience, Violette is passionate about supporting women entrepreneurs through business growth, big vision strategies and positivity. For more inspiration and business tips, visit www.violettedeayala.com and www.myfemcity.com.

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  • Melanie / 10 June 2016 12:48

    These 5 mantras sum it up and are inspirational to keep pressing on for the greater good of everyone!

  • Marelys / 20 June 2016 7:10

    Going to make an effort to meditate everyday!
    Great read!

    • Violette de Ayala / 20 June 2016 11:03

      Thank you Marelys!! One of our Global Members, Peggy Gaines just shared a 1 min Meditation Podcast and its great! It’s posted in our classroom. Take a look when you have a moment. Thanks again!!

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