Love & Business
Your Love Affair with Your Business | Written by Violette de Ayala, Founder and CEO of Femfessionals
The month of love is still upon us and through a series of honey bunny’s and “el amor” sentiments, the love for business was neglected in the valentine’s conversation. You can be completely head over heels in love with your business. Being in love with your business is the sweet spot between the flow of work, vision for the outcome and the actions taken day to day. The trio leads you to the loving arms of what you envision.
There are common threads in business that depict similar patterns with matters of the heart. As with humans, love for your work can at times reach moments of pure ecstasy and within a blink of time it may tinker and sway over to the dark side of doubt and regret. The swinging between the two often occur when things get tough, and a robust amount of negatives show up and the teeny tiny positives are left as an afterthought.
How do you reconnect to a business you once were incredibly in love with? How do you get past those moments that seem to knock you off your feet and make it unbearable to get back up and try again? How do you get that lovin’ feeling back in connection and the state of flow within your work hours grooving again?
I have endured a loss of love for my business at times, it’s human. The real test of a hearty business soul is how you get back in the game. Here are some tips I used to get that groove back on and business flourishing after the hard knocks of entrepreneurship cracked my heart.
1. Vision: I found that when I lost the heartbeat in my business flow, or felt a bit depleted, the first thing to start hiding was my clear vision. While working 50-60 hour weeks with at times little reward, my vision became murky and became filled with frustration. Reconnecting to my vision got me out of this bumpy road and brought back my heart to the work. What is your vision? Where do you see this road going? Hold onto that vision during the dark moments of stress as it will serve as your guiding light.
2. Purpose: Through the years of Femfessionals, I have received job offers that were filled with “easy way outs”; a big salary, working less hours, and easier living were the tempting thoughts popping into my head. But my purpose, my spirit binding purpose, my soulful connection to the work was what kept me going with Femfessionals. My purpose was stronger than any of the temptations. Often, I would receive an email from a stranger across the world, thanking me for my work with Femfessionals. The email served as a reminder that my work was changing the world. My work was a part of my heart. Those random emails served as the kick in the butt I needed to reconnect with my purpose all anew. What is your purpose? How is your heart connected to your work and the impact it makes with those that you serve?
3. Happiness: I found in the yucky moments of entrepreneurship, my happiness level was low and usually connected to the need to recharge and disconnect from work. Since then, I have incorporated many breaks in my day, hours in my week and focused on activities that make me happy. When we are in the falling abyss of work, we can’t remember what light looks like anymore. That darkness settles in our guts and it feels bad. Stop and take a break. You might need a vacation or a few hours away from work. Happiness is key to finding the love again. If you can do an activity that brings you joy at work, that is ideal! I love teaching our classes and that makes me happy. I now teach all the time. It’s my work happy place. What’s your work happy place?
4. Support: It’s a saying I love to say “the five people you hang out with are representative of where you are and what you will be”. I think I paraphrased that a bit to match the way I interpret the saying. Look at those around you and seek those that support you. Spend more time with your support network and uplifting mentors. Surround yourself with those connected to their purpose and in love with their work. Love is contagious. It will rub off on you.
5. Desire: Desire is different than vision. Desire is that stomach sensation that makes you want something so much that you move into fear and face it head on. Desire is the friend that makes you move with gumption into areas that will push you closer to your vision. Desire is the “it” of the flow. Allow your desire to manifest your steps into acting towards the vision you have for you and your business.
Combining these 5 steps has facilitated my embrace to fall back in love with my work and serve my path towards my ultimate vision. I am so happy that I didn’t give up, didn’t give in and kept on through the treacherous road of self-employment.
Decide you want to be in love again. Take the steps to fall in love again. The reward of a unified vision and engaged work path will result in it loving you right back.
Violette is the Founder of Femfessionals [a global online and local community for women entrepreneurs], a small business expert, writer and mother of three. A serial entrepreneur with 20-plus years of experience, Violette is passionate about supporting women entrepreneurs through business growth, big vision strategies and positivity.